16 July 2015

Great Quotes & Movie Lines To Live By

If a bibliophile reads, admires and collects books what do you call a person who reads, admires and collects quotes? 
I really don't know the correct term, if there is any or if not quodophile. So if you know, it would be very helpful to share it here.
I have been collecting quotes for a year now.

Whenever I am reading, whether a book or articles on the internet, I always have a pen, a notebook or a notepad ready, whichever is needed. I also take down lines from movies. I just love them! So here is the latest on my list, which, by the way, is getting bigger. They are not in any particular order of significance because each of them is great.

  • Right is right even if everyone is against it, and wrong is wrong even if everyone is for it.William Penn
  • I object to violence because when it appears to do good the good is temporary, but the evil it does is permanent. Mahatma Gandhi
  • That service is the noblest which is rendered for its own sake. Mahatma Gandhi
  • The earth's crust has a skin disease, a case of microbes infecting its crust, & that sickness is MAN. Peter Flawn
  • Time is free but it is priceless. You can’t own it but you can use it. You can’t keep it but you can spend it. Once you’ve lost it you can never get it back. Harvey MacKay
  • Life is what you make it. Always has been. Always will be. Eleanor Roosevelt
  • The third-rate mind is only happy when it is thinking with the majority. The second-rate mind is only happy when it is thinking with the minority. The first-rate mind is only happy when it is thinking. A. A. Milne
  • Bureaucrats write memoranda both because they appear to be busy when they are writing and because the memos, once written, immediately become proof that they were busy. Charles Peters
  • Friendship is unnecessary, like philosophy, like art... It has no survival value; rather is one of those things that give value to survival. C.S. Lewis
  • There are people who, instead of listening to what is being said to them, are already listening to what they are going to say themselves. Albert Guinon
  • Live a good life. If there are gods & they are just, then they will not care how devout you have been, but will welcome you based on the virtues you have lived by. If there are gods, but unjust, then you should not want to worship them. If there are no gods, then you will be gone but will have lived a noble life that will live on in the memories of your loved ones. Marcus Aurelius
  • When two opposite points of view are expressed with equal intensity, the truth does not necessarily lie exactly halfway between them. It is possible for one side to be simply wrong. Richard Dawkins

Great Lines From Movies
  • Your Majesty, my task is completed now. My decision will cause the deaths of many and Your Majesty will live on. A dead man begs you to remember; a warrior's ultimate act is to lay down his sword. Nameless, Hero
  • Kill a few people, they call you a murderer. Kill a million and you're a conqueror. Eric Qualen, Cliffhanger
  • They say that a man with revenge in his heart should dig two graves. One for his enemy and one for himself. I guess mine's just gonna have to wait. Jonah Hex
  • You know what's the worst thing about somebody breaking up with you? It's when you remember how little you thought about the people you broke up with and you realize that is how little they're thinking of you. You know, you'd like to think you're both in all this pain but they're just like "Hey, I'm glad you're gone"Jesse, Before Sunrise
  • I had been waiting so long to run free, but that goodbye was harder than I ever imagined. I'll never forget that boy and how we won back our freedom together. Spirit, Spirit: Stallion of the Cimarron
  • You can't fill a glass that is already full. Avatar
  • Lynn Mills:  Have you no religion? Have you no God? 
      Jack Kevorkian: Oh, I do, lady, I have a religion, his name is Bach. Johann Sebastian Bach.                                           And at least my God isn't an invented one. You Don't Know Jack

14 July 2015

Your Parents Didn't Leave You When You're Young: A Rant

A close relation posted this meme on her Facebook wall referring to me (as it was revealed later on in the comments) who don't call back home!
 I didn't want to reply to it but my non-conforming self just didn't want to leave it
without a word....or words from me.

Well, the reply I wrote read like this...

"Parents should never leave their children when they are young because it's them who decided to bring their children into this world".

That statement is the truth!

For whatever reason, parents do everything they think is right for their children.
They should!
They must!
After all, children had no opportunity to choose whether they want to be born or not. It's the parents who decided to have them (children) so it's their responsibility to take care of them, bring them up to be good people, teach them good values, and help them learn to be independent. And as far as I can remember, parents encourage their children to learn to take care of themselves because, like most parents would say, "they may not always be there to take care of you".

That, at least, is how I understand parenting!

Yet for conventional people who think children OWE something to their parents because they brought them into this world, such response outrages them.
It turns their blood into a boiling state, as they say!

It's like saying,
"Be thankful I took care of you, otherwise, your head would have not grown this big."
"I could have just let you die in hunger or given you to somebody else."

Such statements are very irresponsible!

Nobody is really forcing them to have children. But if there is, they have their own thinking to decide on their own whether or not to have children. And if they chose to have one or two or more, they don't have the right to make their children feel like they are a burden to them (parents). No children should be made to think that it's their obligation to make their parents happy, because, really, no one is capable of making them happy except themselves.

The truth is, searching for happiness through another person is a recipe for disaster.

Well, I don't know how she (relative) reacted to my comment because, as usual, silence was all I got.

All I know is that children do not owe anything to their parents. Period!
If there's someone who owes something to another? It's the parents to their children. For as long as I can notice, parents don't bring children into their life for the children's sake. Most of the times!
Often, the children just happen and they can't do anything about it
(pregnant so marriage is the answer).
And almost all the time, people have children for their own (parents) benefits.
And most of the times, to conform to what society dictates or because that is expected of them!

calling parents especially when you live far from them is never wrong!
It should even be encouraged!
(Well, as long as there is a good relationship going on between parents and children).

I just don't call!

I don't call anybody!
But hey, a mother isn't just anybody, right?
Well, nevertheless, I don't call!

(And not calling your parents doesn't necessarily mean you have forgotten them or you  have become disrespectful to them).

I just don't feel comfortable talking on the phone. Plus, there are already so many
forms of communication available nowadays which are more convenient and more affordable.
There's FB Messenger, there's Skype, there's Yahoo Messenger.
Should I mention more?

And, talking on the phone often and longer exposes you to higher risks of getting a brain tumor.
I don't want that!
I don't want that for anybody else, too.

So I chat. And I am quite good at it!
It's chatting that I encourage them to do. It's cheaper and more convenient.
I always tell them to pick the time and day!

But what if I am the only one who wants to chat?
Doesn't it feel awkward?

That meme is also flawed!

There is NO rule that children should only be the ones to call their parents.
Just because parents grow old (no one is exempted: we all grow old) it doesn't mean that they can no longer call their children. If they can't afford the call because it's expensive, then what are the other offspring or relatives doing? Can parents not ask for it. Or shouldn't the other children or relative offer them to call that someone? After all, that's what family is for! Right?

Since they can afford to celebrate this and that, go here and there, buy this and that, chat with neighbors and friends and post stuff they like on FB, how come they cannot afford a 5 to 10-minute call to a relative?
Something is seriously wrong in here!
Maybe, they are not just interested to talk? Possible!

It would have been a different scenario if I am the only child, which I am not. But if I am, my parents would have been with me. My mother would have been living with me. She goes wherever I go. Unless she prefers not to.

By the way, "no time"  or "busy" excuses are unacceptable to everyone.

You see, all of us have the same amount of time -24 hours. Eight hours work, 7-8 hours sleep, 8 hours to do the things we are interested in.

So just like we make time to cook or take bath or dine with friends or do the laundry, we can also make time to sit in front of the computer and converse with our loved ones.

What it takes is just our interest to know what's going on in the lives of people we know or people that matter to us.
Interest! Interest to get involved in someone else's life.

So, there goes my rant about that meme!
I just don't agree or disagree with it without evaluating its message.

Life and relationships don't work one way. They work great with a term we called...reciprocity! And really works well for communication, not assumption or expectation.